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Monday, December 24
by
Nick R Thomas A.L.A.M. (Public Speaking)
on Mon 24 Dec 2007 07:57 PM GMT
Twelve Tips for Terrified Speakers! web page
Considering the fact that the first post on this blog only appeared in mid-August, I have been delighted with the impact it is already making in terms of traffic, enquiries about work and compliments received about its usefulness to public speakers. As a Christmas gift to readers who have never picked up a copy at one of my speaking engagements, I am posting my very popular leaflet 'Twelve Tips for Terrified Speakers!' on this site. Rather than make this a sticky post which would be confusing when included with the other numbered Public Speaking Tips in the blog, I have decided to put it with the other web pages over on the left as a separate 'crash course!' Thank you for reading Nick R Thomas - A Public Speaker's Blog in 2007 - I hope it has helped you. Have a great Christmas and a Happy New Year. Nick.
by
Nick R Thomas A.L.A.M. (Public Speaking)
on Mon 24 Dec 2007 12:23 AM GMT
The Queen watches her speech alone
An ITV documentary on 25 December celebrating 50 years of televising the Queen's Christmas Day message reveals that she sometimes leaves the room at Sandringham when her pre-recorded speech is being broadcast so she can watch it away from her family and see whether it has come across in the right way. It is certainly much easier to concentrate alone on watching a film of yourself speaking. Many famous actors hate to watch their performances, even with loved ones; some never watch them at all! When I started teaching public speaking classes, I was asked by one of my bosses why I didn't video students' presentations and then show these films for the whole class to watch and comment on. My reply was simple: because I wanted them to come back the following week! I know there are presentation skills training firms offering intensive courses which involve using video in this way but I always found that gentler alternatives achieved excellent results - without embarrassing students so much that they dropped out! I told my students that they would never be asked to do anything more embarrassing than give a short talk in front of a small class who were all 'in the same boat'. I mentioned that they were welcome to tape their own talks in order to study these recordings at home later, along with anything I said, but not the presentations of others present. Back when I was training as an adult education tutor, I was on a teaching course and a lesson was being filmed. The whole class, including some highly experienced lecturers, clammed up. Then we learned that there had been a fault with the camera so nothing had been recorded - and it was as if a cloud had lifted! Public Speaking Tip #105: A public speaking course should be challenging enough to greatly improve your presentations but should not embarrass you to the point where you no longer wish to participate. Find out what is involved in any training before you enrol and, if you are happy to meet these challenges, throw yourself into them wholeheartedly for some astonishing results! Over the years, I have been filmed a few times and have watched - and benefited - from seeing these recordings but I would not have felt comfortable viewing them for the first time in the presence of others. Facing a large audience and speaking for up to an hour is just so much easier than sitting watching yourself for a few minutes with a couple of other people! Public Speaking Tip #106: It is useful to see a film of your presentation and study and learn from it - in private. Thursday, December 20
by
Nick R Thomas A.L.A.M. (Public Speaking)
on Thu 20 Dec 2007 04:25 PM GMT
Chandler's Ford Civil Service Retirement Fellowship
On Tuesday, I completed my last speaking engagement of 2007 and it was for one of my favourite clubs - Chandler's Ford Civil Service Retirement Fellowship. I had spoken there on three previous occasions since 2004 and at my last talk on Good Friday, they booked me for their Christmas lunch at Wellow Golf Club near Romsey. I decided that my new Great Comedy Quiz would be the best choice for this event. This club is always well attended and there were about 60 members and guests there. After enjoying my fourth turkey meal this month (and my first since the previous evening!), the quiz got under way. I had added some more questions since I tried this out for the first time a few weeks ago, bringing the total to 16, and, with the inclusion of anecdotes, it filled the allotted time perfectly. Quiz questions have to be chosen carefully; include too many easy ones and the whole exercise becomes pointless, make them all too difficult and people get stroppy! You have to strike the right balance, especially taking into account the age of your audience. Public Speaking Tip #102: The choice of questions in a quiz can affect the whole atmosphere of the event so you need to put time and effort into this. The results can be well worth it! Two of the eight tables came top with good scores so I included a tie-breaker. Public Speaking Tip #103: If you are setting a quiz, have extra questions ready in case of a tie; no-one wants to be joint winner! I was relieved that, once again, the cough didn't interrupt the talk. The Chairman gave me a super vote of thanks and when we chatted afterwards, he said how well it worked with me including anecdotes connected with each correct answer. I was also relieved that, once again, the cough didn't interrupt the talk. I am very pleased with this quiz and I can now set about marketing it for special events, perhaps even annual lunches and dinners where they don't usually book a speaker. Public Speaking Tip #104: Your list of available titles should include something different such as a quiz so that you can be booked for a wider range of engagements. There's a bit of extra setting up to do with a quiz and I really must thank the lady who acted as Speaker Hostess for distributing papers, pens, etc, leaving me free to concentrate on my notes. All in all, a very pleasant end to the year's bookings. Tuesday, December 18
by
Nick R Thomas A.L.A.M. (Public Speaking)
on Tue 18 Dec 2007 11:58 PM GMT
My Mother
Five years ago today, on 18 December 2002, my mother Jenny Walker died aged 61. Like me, Mum was a writer and speaker. As a writer, she produced very funny comic verse as well as more serious poetry. She was also a great anecdotalist. As a speaker (unlike me) she needed no presentation skills training before she started getting up in front of audiences. She had a very natural, friendly manner which drew people to her, combined with a phenomenal ability to find the humour in any situation despite having had such a difficult life (a popular talk of hers was called At Least My Smile's Not Broken!) It's true that she was self-conscious about her numerous disabilities, especially as many of her talks in her final years were delivered from a wheelchair, but she loved public speaking so much that even when she was extremely ill, she would frequently discharge herself from hospital for a couple of hours to honour a booking! As part of the eulogy I delivered at her funeral, I read some of the many glowing, unsolicited testimonials she received from her speaking engagements. I have been thinking about a phrase that Earl Spencer used in his eulogy for his sister Diana, Princess of Wales, in 1997, described by Ronald Reagan's speechwriter Peggy Noonan in her book On Speaking Well as the greatest speech of the 1990s. At the time, the sections which got the most media attention were, of course, the barbed comments about how Diana 'needed no royal title' and 'we, your blood family' but when I watched that service on the television, there was another line which absolutely leapt out at me because it was so simple yet remarkably moving: 'We want you to know that life without you is very, very difficult'. Five years since my mother's passing, this perfectly sums up how I still so often feel. Public Speaking Tip #101: However much we may like to show off our vocabularies, sometimes it is the simplest phrases which can be the most effective.
by
Nick R Thomas A.L.A.M. (Public Speaking)
on Tue 18 Dec 2007 11:12 PM GMT
Three Legged Cross WI Christmas Meeting
Sunday, December 16
by
Nick R Thomas A.L.A.M. (Public Speaking)
on Sun 16 Dec 2007 06:30 AM GMT
Hythe Probus
On Wednesday 5 December, I set off to speak to the Probus Club of Hythe near Southampton. I always seem to have travel problems when they book me. Last June, I arrived in Southampton very early and, as it was a lovely, sunny morning, I had planned to travel across to Hythe by ferry. Unfortunately, it was such a lovely, hot day that by 9.30am the boat had seized up in the heat and wasn't running! The Speaker Secretary drove all the way around to fetch me and still managed to get me there for the start of the meeting - much to the relief of their new President. This time around, there was no chance of me wanting to go by ferry because the weather, as forecast, was terrible, so I was being picked up from Southampton station but my lift was delayed by 25 minutes due to traffic problems. Clive, the new Speaker Secretary, and Joe, the Treasurer, eventually arrived and turned out to be great characters. We reached the golf club in good time and I set up ready for the Groucho Marx talk. This was another Probus 'Ladies Day' and, with guests, the audience numbered about 65. I had now delivered this talk more than 20 times over the previous 18 months and had decided to rewrite my notes before this latest booking; not radically, just mainly altering the points at which certain quotations and anecdotes on a similar theme were included in order to improve the structure. The result was that this was easily the best version of this presentation that I have done. The room was very warm but so was the audience's reception! Everyone stayed awake and the humour got a great response. Public Speaking Tip #96: Even if a presentation you deliver on a regular basis goes very well, the content does not have to be 'set in stone'. You can still experiment with the order of material, add or omit sections or simply reword some parts for greater effect. A beneficial alteration may even occur to you many years after you first started giving a successful presentation! I had another good Christmas lunch (my second in three days!) and really enjoyed the company at our table. Afterwards, Clive and Joe ran me back to Southampton. Sunday, December 9
by
Nick R Thomas A.L.A.M. (Public Speaking)
on Sun 09 Dec 2007 07:56 PM GMT
Waterford Probus Last Monday, I made a return visit to Waterford Probus near Christchurch to give a talk entitled Life as a Freelance Comedy Writer Part 2 (Part 1 having been delivered back in March 1999!) I arrived in good time and my setting up included testing the tape player which I would be using to play a recording of a comedy sketch. I familiarised myself with the volume, controls, etc. Public Speaking Tip #92: Before you are introduced, thoroughly familiarise yourself with any equipment which you will be using as part of your presentation, especially if someone else is supplying it; they may be on hand to give you any help you might need. When this was done, I chatted over coffee with some members of the club. One gentleman mentioned that he had always been interested in the concept of humour in business. Now, I do have a presentation called The Power of Humour in Business which I normally deliver for corporate audiences but this wasn't my subject today. However, I could see that mentioning a little about this in my talk would be a useful 'bridge' into some of the prepared material, so when I came to speak, I mentioned my discussion with this chap, talked a little about business humour and then carried on into the planned stories which flowed naturally from this. The result was that it tailored this part of my presentation to this particular group as well as adding a touch of spontaneity among some stories which I have told many times elswhere. Public Speaking Tip #93: Talking to members of your audience before your presentation can produce ideas which may be incorporated into your material to give it more local relevance and structure - if you can include them at short notice without throwing you off your script or overrunning. As I have mentioned, this was a Part 2 but it was inevitable that some bits of Part 1 would have to be repeated for the presentation to make sense. There were many people there who would not have been present for my first one or would not remember details from a talk the best part of a decade earlier! But these repetitions were kept to a minimum and most of my 50 minutes was new to this particular club. Public Speaking Tip #94: If an organisation rebooks you to further develop a topic you have spoken to them about already, you will have to repeat some of the earlier material for the sake of recapping, etc. Just keep this repetition to a minimum. I did experience one minor problem during my talk. The club had provided a small lectern on the table which had a thin bar across the bottom to hold speakers' written materials. I was using single word 'notes' so these were contained in one sheet of A4 which, due to the thin bar and polished wood, occasionally flew off onto the table. It wasn't too distracting but I decided that if I am likely to be using a single sheet on a lectern again, I will either attach it to a clip-board or take a large clip to fix it to the lectern itself. Public Speaking Tip #95: We cannot always foresee every minor problem which might occur at a speaking engagement; all we can do is learn from them and try to prevent them from happening again, often through the introduction of some very simple solutions. The talk was very well received by a decent-sized audience (wives and other guests made the numbers up to around 60) and there was a good question and answer session afterwards. One of the perks of speaking in December is that on top of being paid and selling my booklets, I am also a guest for a number of enjoyable Christmas lunches and dinners! It was a good meal at the Waterford Lodge Hotel and I discovered that the Speaker Secretary, Norman Maton, and his wife Heather, are the parents of a fellow Scout who was with me on a disastrous camping expedition at Pamphill in Dorset in 1974! Sometimes public speaking can seem like a form of Friends Reunited (hardly surprising when you consider that I speak to up to 5,000 people each year). My thanks to Norman and Heather for going out of their way to run me into Christchurch afterwards. Friday, December 7
by
Nick R Thomas A.L.A.M. (Public Speaking)
on Fri 07 Dec 2007 10:28 PM GMT
Credible content
Last Sunday afternoon, I was shopping in my local supermarket (oh, it's an exciting life!). It was packed but I was pleased to note that the announcements requesting shoppers to make their way to the checkouts didn't start until 3.45pm. On one occasion last year. once again on a Sunday, this announcement came just after 3.30 - and this was in mid-summer, not the crowded run-up to Christmas. Two things struck me at the time; firstly, how relieved I was not to be a shareholder in a company whose staff were not even telling their customers to complete their final purchases but actually trying to drive them to the tills nearly half an hour before closing time! And secondly, how all of us in the store simply ignored what we knew to be a quite ridiculous announcement and just carried on with our shopping! Public Speaking Tip #91: The message and the messenger must have some credibility if they are to make any impact. The best example I can think of regarding somebody distracting from their own message through a lack of credibility is in the building where I live. We have very few rules here, all of them perfectly reasonable, but a number of owners and tenants persistently ignore them. The Residents' Association puts up notices from time to time but to little avail. I can't help wondering if at least one or two members of the intended audience for these communications would take them a little more seriously if they weren't signed with the badly punctuated abbreviation: 'From the Residents Ass' Oh dear! |
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