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Friday, November 30
by
Nick R Thomas A.L.A.M. (Public Speaking)
on Fri 30 Nov 2007 05:00 PM GMT
The Duke of Edinburgh as a speaker
There has been a great deal of media coverage over the past couple of weeks of the 60th wedding anniversary celebrations of the Queen and Prince Philip. In the late 40s, the Duke of Edinburgh suddenly found himself being required to speak at a huge number of high-profile events (within a short time, he was the patron of several hundred societies!) He became so proficient at this that books of his speeches were published; I own a copy of one. (It is only when he speaks off the cuff without preparation that he tends to make verbal gaffes - rather like George W Bush!) In an interview in the early 60s, he described after dinner speaking as 'a kind of erudite music hall'. This is very true - there has to be a performance element, however good the material. I have always told students that it can take much longer to master injecting life into the delivery of speeches than it does to learn techniques for overcoming nerves. Sometimes a novice speaker can be so busy demonstrating their new-found calmness that it comes at the expense of a lively presentation! This is where recording every speaking engagement can prove to be extremely useful. When I started out, I learned to relax but, perhaps because I had years of national radio comedy scriptwriting experience behind me, I expected my material to win over audiences for me. I soon discovered that it doesn't work like that! So, over time, I learned to 'give it some welly!'. It took a while - often I would feel that I had gone slightly 'over the top' only to listen to the playback and hear little more than a monotone - but, gradually, with experience, despite being a painfully shy person, I became a performer at my speaking engagements. Public Speaking Tip #90: A speaker needs to be energetic, warm and enthusiastic and to vary their style according to content and type of audience. Recording all your speaking engagements will help you to develop these essential qualities.
by
Nick R Thomas A.L.A.M. (Public Speaking)
on Fri 30 Nov 2007 12:23 AM GMT
Slide Presentation by Eric Watson I stayed on at Southbourne Literary Society for the second half of last week's programme: a presentation with slides on 'The History of the Bournemouth Fire Brigade' by Mr Eric Watson, one of this area's most respected speakers. Now, the mere mention of any kind of slide show can produce negative feelings in many people! Perhaps they have found themselves sitting through a neighbour's proud projection of seemingly endless, boring holiday snaps or some dry lecture interrupted by a series of technical hitches with the visual aids. They may even have been subjected to a spectacular but ultimately bafflng modern power point presentation which added nothing to a training day. All I can say is that Eric Watson's slide shows are extremely well-received, in fact next year will see his 1,000th speaking engagement since 1993! He started his presentation by donning a fireman's helmet and reciting a humorous poem about what the job was like - a light-hearted introduction to what would, at times, be a very serious subject. He then told the audience that although they may have seen a well-known book by another retired local fireman, he would be showing a different range of pictures. Throughout the talk, he was able to draw upon his own experiences from nearly 30 years spent driving many of the fire appliances featured in the slides and he also mentioned his regular meetings with other, much older, retired firefighters. Therefore, right from his opening remarks, he had authority (although it has to be said that the fact that he is 6 foot 8 added to this!) Public Speaking Tip #86: You cannot put a decent presentation together from just one book and a bit of extra material from Wikipedia (unless, perhaps, you are the author of the book!) You have to draw your material from a number of sources and viewpoints. Personal working experience connected in some way with your subject gives your talk particular credibility. When the lights were dimmed, Mr Watson's voice didn't go down with them but remained perfectly audible. Many speakers using slides speak much too quietly when the room gets darker and they can no longer see the back row of the audience with the result that a presentation full of stunning visuals is constantly interrupted by calls of 'Can't hear you!' Using a projector doesn't mean that you should stop projecting! Publing Speaking Tip #87: Visual aids are just that - aids for a speaker, not a replacement for him/her. Speak at the same volume when the lights go down for your slide show as you were beforehand. Remember, also, that even though you cannot see your audience, they can still see you in the half-light so you will still need to pay attention to your stance, etc. Continue to make some eye contact in the direction of your audience - don't just look sideways at the screen. There was one technical problem when the projector bulb went, but, like the professional he is, our speaker had brought a spare one which he quickly fitted. While doing this, he asked the audience if they had any questions up to that point. Public Speaking Tip #88: Be prepared for technical hitches, for example, by bringing along any replacement parts you might need. And if your presentation does grind to a temporary halt, try to make good use of the time, for example, by inviting questions from the audience while the problem is fixed; this ensures that they remain involved and interested. There were some fascinating stories, references to a large number of well-known local buildings (most long demolished) and Mr Watson wasn't shy when it came to mentioning his own feelings about the changes which came about when the Bournemouth Fire Brigade was swallowed up by the Dorset Fire Service as part of the county boundary changes in 1974 - informed opinion from someone with first-hand experience of working under these conditions. Public Speaking Tip #89: Personal opinions in a presentation carry a great deal more weight if they are supported by lengthy personal experience. The audience really appreciated the talk. He said it was one that wasn't booked as often as many of his others but his delivery was very polished. I was delighted to meet - and hear - Mr Watson at last; for many years we have been recommending each other for talks purely on reputation! It was a very good way to finish yet another enjoyable evening at Southbourne Literary Society.
Thursday, November 29
by
Nick R Thomas A.L.A.M. (Public Speaking)
on Thu 29 Nov 2007 11:22 AM GMT
Eulogies
The President of Southbourne Literary Society who introduced me and gave the vote of thanks was Mr Bonsor who was at LAMDA with my public speaking tutor Angela Brennan and delivered a superb eulogy at her memorial service. Although this was back in February 2000, I remember it very well and as I have noticed that a number of readers are discovering this blog and website while searching the net for guidance for speaking at funerals, I thought I would mention a few of the elements which made that speech so appropriate. There must have been at least 100 people in the church and Mr Bonsor told us about how Angela was the best student at poetry readings when he studied with her. Anyone who had her as their teacher would have noticed how, even in her 60s, poetry was still important to her, both in the lessons she taught and in performances she still gave locally until her failing health meant she had to give up. By contrast, he then went on to mention some of Angela's early professional credits, such as the first radio soap opera Mrs Dale's Diary. This was certainly something I didn't know about her; I suspect the same applied to many of the other mourners. Public Speaking Tip #83: If you are preparing a eulogy, aim to make the content a mixture of familiar information about the deceased which those who knew them will remember with affection and facts about the person's achievements which may be less well-known, even surprising, thereby reinforcing the fact that they led a remarkable life. The Christmas before Angela died, she had sent out an excellent self-published book of her own poetry. Mr Bonsor finished with a reading of one selection, a piece which I thought really stood out the first time I read it. It was about Angela's love of being amongst people of all kinds. Of course, being a trained actor, his delivery was always likely to be faultless but I was still struck by how well he had familiarised himself with her poem. It was also an example of good structure in that finishing with it brought his speech full circle by referring back to poetry, a subject she had loved since she was a young student. And it was a very good choice of poem because there were so many people of all kinds present that day. Public Speaking Tip #84: There are few occasions when a short, well-chosen reading can be more effective than at a memorial service. Choose carefully; rehearse well. Eulogies tend to be short - and prepared at short notice. You have just a few hundred words in which to sum up a life. How do you go about this? Try asking yourself the following question... Public Speaking Tip #85: If a complete stranger found the notes for the eulogy you prepared, or perhaps heard a recording of you delivering it, would your choice of words really make them wish they had known that person? Wednesday, November 28
by
Nick R Thomas A.L.A.M. (Public Speaking)
on Wed 28 Nov 2007 10:01 PM GMT
Southbourne Literary Society
Thursday, November 22
by
Nick R Thomas A.L.A.M. (Public Speaking)
on Thu 22 Nov 2007 08:52 PM GMT
Keeping a Commonplace Book
Last night, I delivered my new presentation 'I Must Write That Down: A Commonplace Book' for Southbourne Literary Society. I'll write about that engagement in my next post but I'm going to use this one to talk about commonplace books and their extraordinary value for public speakers. A commonplace book is where you copy anything that makes you think 'I must write that down before I forget it!' It may be something you read or hear or perhaps even some words of your own. Quotations, short verse or prose, observations, anecdotes, jokes, facts...anything that strikes you as inspiring, moving, amusing or fascinating - would your audience think the same if you included any of them in a future presentation? They could be inscriptions from monuments dating back centuries or statements from interviewees in today's tabloid press but whatever they are, write them down because many of them will be useful for your public speaking - sometimes much sooner than you could have imagined. Over many years of teaching workshops and classes in presentation skills, I have advised my students to keep commonplace books. It's something I do myself and it seemed a sensible idea to pass on but it was only when I began researching this new talk about commonplacing that I discovered that I had simply been carrying on a 2,500 year-old tradition! Teachers of rhetoric, dating back to Aristotle in Ancient Greece (and possibly even Protagoras a century before him) recommended that pupils should compile a repository of great ideas from others for use in their persuasive speaking! Keeping a collection of this kind is immensely valuable for speakers; once you have committed an idea to your commonplace book, your subconscious mind often seems to go to work on natural ways for you to introduce it into your material at the earliest opportunity. If you are uncertain what sort of material to include, have a look at some of the recently published commonplace books, such as Magnus Magnusson's 'Keeping My Words'. And watch out for the latest 'Christmas Cracker' edited by John Julius Norwich - these brilliant, popular collections have been published every year since 1970. They certainly aren't cheap for such slim volumes but they are excellent examples of the wide-ranging, memorable content of a good commonplace. Public Speaking Tip #78: Start compiling a commonplace book of anything you come across which you could imagine yourself quoting, to good effect, in a speech. The chances are, you soon will be! Saturday, November 17
by
Nick R Thomas A.L.A.M. (Public Speaking)
on Sat 17 Nov 2007 04:05 PM GMT
Emsworth U3A
I had an early start yesterday: I was on the train by 07.30 to travel to Emsworth in Hampshire to speak to their U3A on My Life as a Freelance Comedy Writer. Despite major delays to most trains when I changed at Southampton, I still managed to arrive early which is always a major relief to anyone who books a speaker - especially one who uses public transport! Public Speaking Tip #75: Most people who regularly organise speakers have been let down at one time or another so they will be delighted to see you turn up. Very few will complain if you arrive early! Public Speaking Tip #76: Arriving early at a booking may sometimes involve sitting through a business meeting/other speakers before it is your turn to address the audience but it is amazing how often listening to others can inspire a relevant addition to your own presentation. If this happens, be prepared to make a quick, brief note and mentally rehearse this additional tailored material. There were 90 in the audience (a very pleasing turnout) and the talk went extremely well, the only technical hitch being (as is so often the case) a microphone problem. I had been asked by the group's very friendly chairman Ken if I could use the mic as a number of members with hearing difficulties depend on the loop system and I was happy to agree. Ken told me how one previous speaker, an ex-Naval officer, with a rather loud voice had been outraged at the suggestion that he should use any amplification but loop systems are an excellent aid for those who are hard of hearing and should be used by a speaker if requested. I have spoken to less than 20 but used a microphone for this reason and I have I have spoken to well over 100 without one because nobody there was hearing impaired. Surely a speaker wants as many people as possible to get the maximum effect from their presentation? Towards the end of my talk, there was a definite tinny squeal coming from the microphone clipped on my shirt collar so, after a little experimentation, I found that this could be reduced by my actually holding this tiny device (as I remarked to the audience, I felt like Terry Wogan years ago when he had that mini-microphone on Blankety Blank!). Public Speaking Tip #77: However prepared you are, things will occasionally go wrong. A good speaker needs the ability to keep calm and make some inventive changes at short notice so that the presentation can continue and the audience's enjoyment will not be affected. It's even better if that inventiveness stretches to ad-libbing! I had been asked to speak for an hour and there were a decent number of questions afterwards. I got some of the longest applause I can ever remember and many requests for my details to forward to other organisations. All in all, a very good engagement. I had been to Emsworth earlier this year and really liked the place. It's a charming small town (less than 10,000 inhabitants) with a long history and is situated at the top of Chichester Harbour. Once again, I had a leisurely walk around, enjoyed lunch in the very good cafe called The Greenhouse and visited an excellent, very reasonably priced second-hand bookshop, Bookends, where I picked up a couple of items which will be most useful for researching talks. I have posted a link to Emsworth Online in my Favourites on this site. Wednesday, November 14
by
Nick R Thomas A.L.A.M. (Public Speaking)
on Wed 14 Nov 2007 08:10 PM GMT
More Public Speaking Tips in the Photos section of this blog
Click on each of the Photos on this site and you will find a short article which includes, like all my blog posts, a useful Public Speaking Tip.
by
Nick R Thomas A.L.A.M. (Public Speaking)
on Wed 14 Nov 2007 01:13 PM GMT
Boscombe and Southbourne Probus
My third booking last week was a talk for Boscombe and Southbourne Probus on Thursday. I have a great fondness for this club because my first talk there ten years ago led to a couple of amusing incidents which have been extremely popular in talks ever since, as well as being published in 'Nick R's in a Twist!' In fact, it was also at that engagement that someone first suggested that I should publish a collection of my stories. This was my fourth visit and I was pleased to see that a successful recruiting campaign was paying off for them so there were 45 present for my talk about Groucho Marx. It went very well and there was a good question and answer session afterwards - always a bonus! Among the members was Mr Tom Hall, Honorary Secretary of the Southbourne Literary Society where I will be delivering another brand new talk, 'I Must Write That Down: A Commonplace Book', on 21 November. It's always a double bill there, a literary speaker usually followed by a slide show, and I was pleased to learn that my talk will be followed by a presentation from Eric Watson, not only because his subject 'The History of the Bournemouth Fire Brigade' will be of great interest to me, but also because he has an excellent reputation but I have never actually heard him speak (like me, most of his engagements are for meetings of clubs and societies which are not open to non-members). I mentioned in an earlier post about the benefits of repeated listening to recordings by well-known speakers. It is also, of course, hugely informative to actually attend talks and lectures; we can all watch interviewees on TV chat shows or hear extracts from speeches on the news but nothing beats being there in person for an entire live, unedited presentation. As a child, I can't claim that the guests at school speech days paricularly inspired me but when I was eleven, my family took me to a conservation rally at a Purbeck beauty spot where the broadcaster Kenneth Allsopp held an audience spellbound in an open-air setting on a hot summer afternoon. There is a picture of the event in the book Tyneham by Rodney Legg (Dorset Publishing Company, 2002). When I became a speaker, I sought out (and still do!) events featuring great speakers. There was an evening of polished anecdotes from broadcaster David Jacobs at Winchester's Tower Arts Centre, a superb show from that great raconteur Victor Spinetti at the Nuffield in Southampton and I got to hear the great Blaster Bates at Yeovil's Octagon Theatre. He was in his mid-70s but still performed for over two hours (I missed the last train and had to pay for a taxi back to Bournemouth but it was worth it - Blaster was special!) Then there is the legendary Roy Hudd, whose Radio 2 programme I wrote for over a 12-year period. In 2005, he brought his one-man show to the Pier Theatre here in Bournemouth (in the Photos section of this site, you can see a picture of him with my partner Val and myself later that evening). I have heard some great talks by well-known authors, such as Simon Brett and Kevin Goldstein-Jackson at Poole Writers' Circle. At a literary lunch in Kent, I shared a bill with Antonia Barber, writer of the very popular children's book 'The Mousehole Cat'. Bookshops often stage events featuring famous writers. Sadly, my local branch of Borders seldom seems to hold these now, but over the years, I have heard impressive speakers like Michael Winner, who spoke for an hour without notes while a member of staff held a microphone in front of his face because they didn't have a stand! The financial guru Alvin Hall answered questions from a huge crowd and veteran comedy actor Graham Stark spoke about the book he'd written about his friend Peter Sellers (or he did until, unbelievably, his talk was cut short by staff keen to put on a film quiz; apparently they thought people would rather answer questions about movies than listen to someone who'd appeared in many of the most successful!) I noted how entrepreneur Howard Hodgson still turned up to speak there in September 2000, despite the difficulties and tiny audience caused by that month's petrol blockades. Another talk I enjoyed at Borders was by self-help author Tim Laurence. I made sure I was present when travel writer and broadcaster Rory MacLean entertained the Friends of Wimborne Library with very funny readings from his latest book and I have heard some excellent speakers at Society of Authors lunches, such as Dorchester Library's wonderfully humorous manager, and the caretaker of Thomas Hardy's home Max Gate, who, as part of a guided tour, delivered a terrific reading of the poem 'When I Set Out for Lyonesse' as we stood in Hardy's garden. Southbourne Literary Society itself is open for anyone to attend and I have often been along to meetings where I was not the booked speaker, often taking along students from my public speaking classes. I went to author and Professor of Radio at Bournemouth University Sean Street's talk about the Dimmock poets and that same evening, Mr Hall himself spoke fascinatingly about his memories from 60 years (yes, 60!) involvement with the Society. And just last year, I spent an enjoyable Friday evening at a church in Branksome where three speakers, all retired from long careers in television or the theatre locally, reminisced about their work. None seemed to be particularly experienced at delivering anecdotes in this type of setting but they all managed to entertain a surprisingly large audience while helping to raise funds for the church. The point is that listening to all these speakers over the years, whether they were well-known or not, was fascinating and made an impression; however experienced I become, I continue to watch out for opportunities to hear others' presentations. Public Speaking Tip #70: Take every opportunity to listen to - and learn from - other speakers. Friday, November 9
by
Nick R Thomas A.L.A.M. (Public Speaking)
on Fri 09 Nov 2007 05:17 PM GMT
Last Tuesday, I delivered two talks: a brand new quiz for Bournemouth Central Probus followed by Life as a Freelance Comedy Writer for a large group of retired Marks and Spencer staff in Southampton.
Bournemouth Central Probus Club On Tuesday 6 November, I was the speaker at the Bournemouth Central Probus Club. This was my fourth visit, but the first time I had ever been booked for one of their Coffee Mornings. It was also the 'première' of my new Great Comedy Quiz. I was sorry to learn that the Speaker Secretary who had booked me, Frank Marsh, had passed away. You meet some memorable characters at speaking engagements and he was someone I had enjoyed speaking to at previous bookings. There were about 45 people at the Belvedere Hotel (including members' wives) and I think they were used to talks rather than quizzes at this type of meeting but fortunately this new title combines both as I deliver anecdotes about the comics or shows revealed to be the correct answers (it makes it seem less like an exam!) As well as preparing the material, I had also taken paper and even spare pens for the contestants. Most played in pairs and there were a lot of laughs, one of the best being an ad lib from one lady when I asked for the name of the Marx Brother who didn't appear in their movies. I said 'You're coming up with all manner of names with an 'o' on the end aren't you?' and she suggested 'Dunno!' Brilliant! Public Speaking tip #68: Audience participation can be great fun, especially quizzes, provided the questions are not too hard - or too easy. The interaction often provides a great deal of humour over and above the speaker/quizmaster's prepared material and helps to make the occasion even more memorable. When the quiz section had ended, I told some of the stories I hadn't used in my previous talks for them and got a barnstorming reception, ending with the quotation I mentioned in my last posting - only this time I remembered it without any problems! After a chat with another of this club's members who I always enjoy meeting, a retired detective, I made my way to the station to travel to Southampton for the other talk that day. The announcements on the Virgin train were a lot more cheerful this time, in fact, rather giggly, but that was much preferable to my previous journey. Southampton Forever Friends There were about 80 at this club, mostly women, and they were all waiting patiently for me when I finally found a way into the building!. The talk went brilliantly and as I was signing off and giving my booklet a last mention, I told them that it included a story I hadn't had time to include in the talk, an anecdote about what happened to me once when I was speaking at a nearby hotel (now demolished). The audience were disappointed at the thought of not hearing it so, despite having already filled the allotted time, I was allowed to add this tale and it went extremely well, in fact, I can't ever remember getting such prolonged applause. Booklet sales were excellent afterwards and I think they will be booking me to speak again in this very pleasant venue (the Masonic Hall). Oh yes, and I got that quotation right again! Public Speaking Tip #69: You should stick to your allotted time but you will often find when your presentation goes really well, especially if it's humorous, that organisers and audiences are happy for you to do a few minutes more. It's best to ask if this is ok once you have spoken for the agreed time. Thursday, November 8
by
Nick R Thomas A.L.A.M. (Public Speaking)
on Thu 08 Nov 2007 08:02 AM GMT
Bourne Valley Horticultural Society, Winterbourne Earls
Last Thursday (November 1st), I set off to speak on 'The Comedy of Life' at the Bourne Valley Horticultural Society, Winterbourne Earls, near Salisbury. I caught a Virgin train from Bournemouth and changed at Southampton. Before, I write about the talk itself, I must give a special mention to the Train Manager (I think we used to call these people guards or conductors!), a man whose announcements managed to turn this straightforward 30-minute journey into a grim experience. He told us as we set off that the shop on board would soon be open. Unfortunately, that was the last positive thing he said. He asked that all luggage be removed from seats. Now, I can fully appreciate from personal experience how annoying it is when you're trying to find a spare seat on a crowded train and the few available are covered with bags by someone who's obviously keen not to share their own little (double) space. It probably isn't too hygienic either, having luggage that's been on the floor put on a seat, but this was a man obsessed. He came through our (at least half-empty) carriage checking tickets and demanding that offending items be removed - although I couldn't actually see any to start with! Still, it meant there was certainly plenty of choice of seats for the two passengers I saw getting on at Brockenhurst. They were told about the shop, too - but only as the point where they should meet him to purchase tickets 'and avoid a fine'. Then we had more 'no-bags' nagging and by the time we arrived at Southampton Central, I felt as if I was back in school with some particularly oppressive teacher, not on a train as an adult paying customer! In fact, the atmosphere throughout the entire carriage was miserable. He then told passengers alighting at Southampton to have their tickets ready for inspection at the barrier. I studied him as we waited to get off and noticed that he bore something of a resemblance to Perluigi Collina, the cadaverous-looking football referee who achieved worldwide fame during Euro 2004 - except that even he is occasionally seen smiling. The train was scheduled to continue on to Dundee but for me, even a few minutes more as far as Southampton Parkway would have been too much! What a difference from Virgin Trains' usually upbeat and cheerful on-board announcements. Public Speaking Tip #61: Unless you are in the unenviable position of having to break some tragic news, there are very few announcements which cannot be improved by a positive delivery and the injection of some humour. The results can be measured immediately in your audience's reaction. The second leg of the journey, from Southampton to Salisbury, was much more easy-going and I was given a lift from the station by Lynn James, whose husband Neil is a brilliant wildlife photographer. I have put a link to his website in my Favourites list. Although I was speaking to a Horticultural Society, my talk was not about gardening but 'The Comedy of Life' (another title for the talk that I have delivered over the years as 'Harnessing Life's Humour', 'The Riches of Embarrassment' or, more usually nowadays, 'The Power of Humour in Everyday Life'). In my earliest days as a speaker, I did try to put together a talk based entirely on a few years of gardening experience. A short version went reasonably well with a small group and I was then booked by a much larger club for a longer talk. I decided to pad this out with readings of horticultural humour from various writers but, as the date approached, I knew I had bitten off more than I could chew! I watched in horror as 150 people paid to hear me, 150 people who sat in near-silence for the best part of an hour as I spoke. My own gardening anecdotes were nothing new to them and I certainly didn't have enough experience at delivering prose back then to make the readings from other writers come alive as they deserved to. Never again! That was nearly ten years ago and I still shudder when I think about it. Public Speaking Tip #62: Gain as much speaking experience as you can - but stick to what you know or you will soon be found out by members of specialist audiences with far more knowledge than you. So now I stick to subjects which I am really familiar with, i.e., my own experiences in comedy/public speaking, or lectures about writers and performers who I know a lot about (although I still put in a great deal of additional research on them anyway). The 'Comedy of Life/Power of Humour' talk is one where I select material from a large number my tried and tested stories to suit the audience/occasion. Public Speaking Tip #63: You should always be honing additional material. This gives you a wider selection to choose from in preparing a presentation, enables you to switch content, if necessary, during it and may even give you something extra to include in a brief form during questions afterwards. You will eventually have enough to return to the same audience with a 'Part 2' of at least equal quality to the first - and without repeating any part of it. Make a note of what material from a wide selection you actually use. I was wary of the fact that this society had never had a non-horticultural speaker before. I like to go to places where they are used to having regular speakers on a wide variety of topics. I once spoke after a Mothers Union New Year lunch for about 75 pensioners in a barn of a room and got very little response. I only discovered afterwards that in previous years they had always had musicians, singers, etc - not speakers. The following year, I received a muted response from a retirement club which met every month but only had speakers a couple of times a year - and the last one had been one of their own members. Again, they weren't really in the habit of listening to talks. On the other hand, I have had very good experiences at a couple of National Trust groups, despite perhaps not being their usual type of speaker, and I had an excellent response in 2004 when I spoke at the AGM of the Salisbury Twinning Association in the presence of the city's Mayor - an event where they had never booked a speaker as entertainment before. The Bourne Valley Horticultural Society had been advertising my talk in their programme for nearly a year and as 45 members had turned up (double the number who had come along the previous month for a speaker on an interesting and more related topic) I was confident that my talk would work there. Public Speaking Tip #64: When you receive an invitation to speak, always check that the audience is a) accustomed to listening to speakers and b) likely to appreciate your subject - otherwise, no-one is going to be happy. The talk went well but I couldn't resist crowbarring in anything remotely horticulture-related, such as mentioning the corporate video scripts I'd written to help Bournemouth win a number of prestigious awards, relating any gags and sketches I'd written over the years that were remotely garden-themed. With hindsight, I did this far more than I needed to. And then - disaster! For this blog to have any credibility, it is important that I am totally honest with my readers - and that includes being open about my mistakes. It's all very well to post about presentations that have gone swimmingly but even highly experienced speakers get things wrong from time to time and I need to tell you about these so that we can all learn something. There is a quotation that I finish most of my talks with. It's not that well-known so it's new to the audience but it's also very apt (it gets murmurs of 'That's true' everywhere I use it!). I credit the author then go straight into it, only on this occasion...my mind went blank. I wasn't using notes for it, after all, I've delivered it a couple of hundred times, so there was nothing to remind me. At last something came back to me and I started to deliver it - back to front! Then I finally remembered it and put it across correctly and finished. I'd managed to joke my way through this embarrassment, the audience laughed along with me and I got a great reception afterwards, sold a number of my books, chatted to loads of people who said they'd really enjoyed the talk, etc, but, of course, we always dwell on the mistakes, not the successful parts, don't we? I can blame over-confidence, over-familiarity or simply the fact that extemporising too much with all the unnecessary gardening references meant that I lost my drift, but whatever the reason, it shook me and reminded me to pay special attention to this quote (and the rest of my familiar material in the future). Public Speaking Tip #65: Even if you are using the same material over and over again, you still need regular rehearsals/reminders or sooner or later you will go wrong - especially if you deviate from your prepared script! Public Speaking Tip #66: Even the most experienced speakers sometimes make mistakes. Go to see a play in London's West End and you will see some of the world's top actors occasionally stumble over a line. They calmly go back, repeat it correctly - and carry on as if nothing has happened. Public speaking isn't about being perfect, it's about being the best you can on the day. Don't dwell too much on your public speaking mistakes other than to learn from them where possible. I tape the majority of my talks (on a good old-fashioned cassette recorder, no less!) and, listening to the playback, the pauses while I struggled were only a couple of seconds - they just felt longer! Public Speaking Tip #67: Record your presentations. This is especially useful for beginners as it really helps with timing material, learning to emote, etc, but it's a good habit for all speakers. It's not only a useful record of what material you've used and a source for demos, it also lets you hear that any mistakes didn't sound quite as bad as you may have thought! |
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